Reading assignment:
Red Book pages 6 through 9, under the heading titled “Adult Children, Codependents;”
Red Book pg. 335, under heading titles “What is Codependence?” and “What is Para-Alcoholism?;”
Red Book pages 355-358, under the heading titled “Pain, Shutdown, and Survival”
Reading assignment:
Red Book pages 6 through 9, under the heading titled “Adult Children, Codependents;”
Red Book pg. 335, under heading titles “What is Codependence?” and “What is Para-Alcoholism?;”
Red Book pages 355-358, under the heading titled “Pain, Shutdown, and Survival”
Recommended weekly reading:
“The Laundry List” or “The Problem,” “The Solution,” and “The Promises” on pages 587-591 of the Red Book or in the first several pages of the yellow workbook;
“The Twelve Steps” on pages 91-92 of the Red Book (also on pages 1-2 of the workbook); and
“The Twelve Traditions” on page 592 of the Red Book
Suggested supplemental reading:
Tradition Twelve (the tradition for the month of December) in depth starting on Red Book page 549
(available used on Amazon.com for around $4.00 USD.)* See ACAWSO’s Literature Policy: “It has always been accepted that ACA should remain eclectic in choosing literature. That is, ACA meetings may draw from various sources without censorship.”
“Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie (available used on Amazon.com for around $4.00 USD), chapters titled “Codependency” and “Codependent Characteristics.” See ACAWSO’s Literature Policy: “It has always been accepted that ACA should remain eclectic in choosing literature. That is, ACA meetings may draw from various sources without censorship.”
This week’s step study questions are found on page 53 of the yellow workbook under the heading “Dependence and Codependence”:
6. Do I label myself as a “giver” but secretly resent others, who do not return my favors or listen to my advice?
7. Do I choose relationships based on people who are “beneath” me but who I can rescue and make “love me?”
8. Do I find myself in relationships with “dangerous” men or women because I feel alive amid the intensity? Did I ignore how he or she had harmed others by thinking I was “special” and would not be harmed?
9. Do I accept a high level of abuse from someone but don’t recognize the abuse?
10. Do I look outside myself for love and affirmation? (List an example.)
Deep Dive questions:
- What is a healthy and loving relationship? What would that look like?
- Do I desire healthy and loving relationships? Which needs of mine may currently be stronger than my desire for healthy and loving relationships (i.e., controlling, people-pleasing, caretaking, etc.)?
- Where do I learn what a healthy relationship is? Where might I find some examples?
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